Outings

A few minutes ago, my calico raised her rear to meet my hand as I scratched it. I can never scratch a cat that way without remembering Barbara on the bed scratching her cat's butt--the cat pressing its rear-end high up into her hand--while Barbara purred: 

"Cats like to have their asses scratched."

Cats were our teachers.


Ed would point to Brownie resting meditatively and ask: "Can you imagine being that relaxed?" 

Florida State University had Four Quarters. Tallahassee, Fla. had four seasons. Growing up in snow-less South Florida, I'd never seen seasonal changes. Tallahassee, being in the northern panhandle of Florida, gifted us with colored leaves and a fountain that looked like a big ice sculpture in the winter.

The above photo of the frosty FSU water fountain is not one of mine. It is from Google Images.


Fall saw the exit of Barbara after she graduated and returned to Miami. Ed took over her subterranean studio, and enrolled to finish his senior year. 


During his Dropout Year, Ed obtained a military psychiatric deferment from the draft (in full swing thanks to the Vietnam War which was sending boys home in body bags). That summer I drove him to his weekly psychiatrist appointments. 


One day I asked how the session was and he answered, "Today we discussed psychiatric theories. What he thinks of R.D. Laing." Ed had me reading Laing's Politics of Experience and the Bird of Paradise. Laing argued that perhaps our experiences simply are. Nothing more. 

Lang's theories were called "Existential" and "Leftist." He just said it's okay to be crazy.

It did not occur to me to ask whether Ed was also discussing his sexual predilections. Around that time, I saw a video of a theater sketch about a young man acting gay to get out of the draft--doing everything but actually having sexual intercourse with the stone-faced male psychiatrist--and still getting stamped fit for the active duty. So I was aware of the power of the "H" word, but Ed claimed to be faking madness. Sort of.

That Fall I moved out of the House of Neurotic Sexy Coeds into a large garage apartment with my name on the lease. I shared a room with a studious, funny Jewish girl named Joanne who didn't care for pretty roommates. The other bedroom was smaller and saw pretty roommates come and go.

Here's Joanne during an all-night-cram-session when she finally lost sanity, wrapped herself in one of our tie-dyed sheets and began dancing and chanting: "Hare Krishna...Hare Krishna...Hare Krishna..." 

The final pretty roommate was Carolyn who downplayed her prettiness and who also had terrible arthritis that was heavily medicated so Joanne was able to tolerate her with sympathy, at least for a while.

Carolyn (photo above).


Carolyn had played Michael in Peter Pan the year before so I knew she was a terrific actress. I was taking a directing class and cast her and a tall droopy guy named Harvey in Tennessee Williams' one-act, Talk to Me Like the Rain and Let Me Listen. Rehearsals turned grueling. Carolyn was perfect for the part, but so insecure that she'd often burst into tears, blaming my poor direction or her inability as an actress.

Carolyn's final performance was mesmerizing, and Harvey turned out to be pitch perfect as her alienated flop-house lover. The two are connected by pain but not intimacy. 


My professor gave me a "B+" grade because he "never saw the ball bounce between them."

Meanwhile Ed was working into the wee hours with huge slabs of stone and chemicals and paints in the lithography studio of the Art Department, and sleeping in the daytime. I would often open his unlocked door and crawl into bed with him. The gentle afternoon light streaming from the sides of the blinds across the bed…Ed’s soft skin and silky chest hair…we’d hold each other and drift through sleep like two morphine addicts in a Tennessee Williams play. 

One day on a visit to see my mom in Miami, I told her about Ed.

Mom:  (very worried) I hope you’re not sleeping with him.

Me:  Well, actually we do sleep together. But nothing happens. I’m not going to get pregnant. We’re not having sex. I’m still a virgin.

Mom: You sleep in the same bed. Doesn’t he get an erection? Don’t you feel it when he’s got an erection?

Me:  No.

Mom: Oh my God, Marlan. That’s not NORMAL.

Poor Mom. So close to the truth. But I told her that it was normal. As far as I was concerned.

Ed acquired a big grey tomcat that just showed up one day. He would eat cheese out of Ed's hand and then proceed to hump the furniture, purring obscenely. In deep admiration for this supreme show of horny masculinity, Ed named him "Jocko."

The cat came and went. The same could be true of Ed's art nowadays. For his thesis, he was making lithographs of maps. Was it a "big fuck you" to the Academic Powers that were--anger at being forced to create in order to get a degree? Or was he running out of artistic gas? The lithos were technically proficient. But as far as I could see, that's all. 

Like so many crucial topics that arose between us, I didn't ask for explanation.

If Ed's seemingly superficial art was connected to sadness for Barbara's absence, he hid it well. When not sleeping or working towards his degree, he was at my place hanging out and enjoying the Grand Central Social Station of my living room. 

People from the past began to show up to mingle with people in the present. Bob from the summer house began a flirtatious friendship with Joanne. For all his bragging, there was something rather innocent about Bob, and the two of them tapped into a pleasant relationship that included studying together and dinners. If there were conjugal visits, I dared not ask details.

Bob and Joanne (above). I must have surprised them with my camera. There's a smiling one. Just need to find it and post later...  


Once again Ed and I embarked on fresh excursions, this time with new friends. Our first was Studying in the Woods. Joann brought a sweet coed aptly named Joy. She was sweetly attractive, hippieish, and rich. Joy always looked as if she was going to break into Judy Collins' We Always Cook with Honey. 


The autumn air was crisp but not cold. We wore our homemade-tie-dyed thermal underwear. Blankets provided support for books and bodies on the long grasses as we made nature our study hall.

Ed (foreground), Joy (middle), and Joanne (background).  

Sandspurs, Books and Blankets

There was one enchanted outing that involved a lot of people and a couple of cars. I only remember Ed and Joanne, but Joy was probably there and her friends. Maybe Bob. It was a coed camping trip, designed with little hardware and no tents. We built a fire and slept on the ground near Dog Lake. I doubt you could get away with that now. 


Yes, it was all very Hansel and Gretel. No heavy breathing or sex. Except the one thing that made it more Woodstock than Grimm: mescaline. The plan was to go out to Dog Lake, take the mescaline, trip away and stay at the lake to avoid the trauma of driving home. 


Before the mescaline, we hung out and explored. Off from the path, we found a stage. Without a second thought, I jumped onto the stage and did an improv:  I was a piece of happy bacon with my fellow strips inside the package--cozy and optimistic. But the trip home inside the shopping bag led predictably to foul play as my companions one by one were lifted out and thrown onto the grill. Until I met with the same scary fate, crinkling and wailing as I popped and sizzled.


Everyone applauded and commented. But the main thing:  Ed was impressed. He couldn't stop talking about how wonderful I was. I walked some distance ahead of him while he called out: "Hey, little piece of bacon...wait for me!" But I didn't. I shrugged and laughed and hurried on. Very pleased and a bit scared that he might soon be disappointed. It might be downhill from here.


I remember taking the mescaline and hanging out with Joanne. And I took a photo of a dog swimming in dog lake.
  




We weren't doing lots of drugs. Well, what do you consider a lot? Drugs came and went as frequently as the people. Grass and occasional hallucinogens.


I hadn't tripped since that fateful night when I walked all the way to Ed's home to bang on his door. But this trip was by far gentler in tone and fun because gentle fun people were with me.


Tripping, standing at the lake's edge with Joanne, I looked into the clear water and saw imprints of paw prints, reptile bodies, footprints so dark and big they appeared to be painted on the sand-colored mud below. A middle-aged lady with a bad perm and tight black curls approached and said in a man's baritone voice:


"Are there snakes in this lake?"


Joanne and I turned to look and both noticed that a tiny middle button on her tight white blouse was about to pop as her bosom pushed against it, and we laughed so hard we couldn't answer.


To be continued...






  

Trust

The Rambler rolling along through the night...Me in the passenger seat...Ed at the wheel chanting what sounds like a Navajo pow-wow song.


"What are you doing?" I ask. "What's that?"
"Chanting. To stay awake."


On the way to his parents' home where he still lived. So it must have been night. But my memory offers up no info on where his parents put me if we stayed overnight.


I don't recall his mother feeding us, although she must have. Only that one moment stands out--which I included in my letter to her last month. Ed's sudden impulse to cut my hair ("You know how your hair should look?), setting the chair in the backyard and going to town with the scissors while his parents watched from the open sliding glass doors saying, "We hope you know what you're doing."


Thrilled. I didn't care if I ended up bald. This attention...this strange physical intimacy. Not quite the same as having a man shave your armpits, but not that different either.

Nothing else remains of that visit. Perhaps that's more than enough. Looking back, I wonder what I was doing there. Why he brought me. Was it just because he was driving my car? Or was he somehow showing off that he was "dating" a girl (even living with her)?


His mother recently answered my letter (I asked if she ever heard from Barbara and she said yes), and said that Ed and Barbara had wanted to get married but "I told them to wait until after graduation. But by then she married somebody else."


The regret.


I hope she doesn't believe marrying Barbara would have saved Ed from taking men as lovers. Although he and Barbara would have made a dynamic, complimentary couple.


One evening, late in our cohabitation that summer, Ed called to say:  "I'm at Barbara's and I'm going to spend the night." Feelings of anger and humiliation welled up in me. I retorted, "That's fine. I'm going to go out and pick someone up off the street corner to spend the night with."


"I wish you would," he said. "But you won't." My roommate Becky was there during that call and after I hung up, and she heard what he said, she yelled, "I don't know why you put up with him, Marlan!"


Becky and I met when she was a sweet virgin in her Freshman year. She was now sleeping with a much older guy who didn't interact with the rest of the house (as Ed did), but basically had sex with her and left, or she would go to his place. In my eyes, Becky's de-virginization  had made her high-strung, fidgety and dramatic. If that's what sex did to you, then I felt safe "putting up" with Ed where at least our feelings were real, if unspoken.


No drama the next day when Ed returned. I don't remember discussing it (although he was probably dying to). Barbara had a steady boyfriend. And even after making love with Ed again, she picked up the occasional guy in a bar.


"Barbara's sore," Ed told me one day, laughing. "She picked up this guy who turned out to be a hot lay and today she's complaining she can hardly walk." I laughed. He added: "I am not a 'hot lay.' I take my time."


Whatever. This attitude and talk did not make me regret not having sex with him. I was content not to be compared in bed. Comparing us out of bed would have been an exercise in futility. It would have been like comparing Elizabeth Taylor to a fly on her wall.


Then came the cats.


My roommate Barbara showed up with the four kittens she had promised, and Ed and I spent hours in bed petting them and playing with them. I got one for myself--a black one with brown tinge to the fur that she had named "Brownie." Ed changed it to "Pussilanimous Miscreant (the Cowardly Villain)." Ed drew a pastel of Brownie lying down --the view from behind. The only attempt he made at drawing while living there. It was lovely.


What happened to that drawing? My aunt might have thrown it out during her purge of my bedroom in Ft. Myers after I'd dropped out of college and left home for Boston. She threw out my dolls; the trippy lampshade Becky had painted for me; and possibly Ed's drawing. I'd left Brownie with my father and brother. A few years later, we were walking in Chicago where I now lived, and Dad said: "Oh I have to tell you something sad: Brownie ran away."


Cats do not run away. I knew Dad had disposed of her. But worse, I felt startled. I'd forgotten all about her. I had somehow misplaced her in my selfish need to get away and find myself. Bad when it happens to cats. Worse when it happens to people.


One day I was visiting Barbara and described how the kittens seemed to melt under his velvety touch (something I picked up and retain to this day), and she stretched out her hand and said: "Ed can touch."


The way she said it, I could see the two of them in that small bed, Ed taking his time with his light, soothing touch--Barbara purring under it. "Ed can touch..." as if to say, This is his true talent. His calling. Like the way a man might talk about a woman who is good in bed. Categorically. Did Barbara love the rest of Ed? How could she not? He was lovable. She said nothing to me of her feelings. Perhaps to spare me. Or was she, in fact, as confused as I was about what the future might hold with someone who is neither animal, vegetable or mineral?


The summer was drawing to a close, my classes were in finals, and I was rehearsing for the show when my roommates announced that it was unfair that Ed lived in my room when the others did not have men living with them, and that meant he was using the utilities and not sharing the expenses. Plus he was taking up space in the 4-bedroom house and therefore should pay rent.


Many many roommates later, I can look on this as standard female roommate ganging-up petty behavior. But this was my first taste. I had been spending a lot of time away from home and Ed. He interacted with them of course when I wasn't there--and what was said or inferred was unknown to me except for the Frozen Banana Incident.


Over-ripe bananas in the freezer that had caused my roomies consternation and they laughed when I came home and revealed that I was the one who had put them there. To eat later as frozen bananas in cereal.


Someone laughed and said: "Ed said, 'Well, I know it wasn't Marlan. She's far too rational.'"


Rational? Moi? But I can see that my diary entries reflect a rational girl with flashes of emotionalism and radical wild outbursts.


It occurs to me now that Becky might have campaigned to get rid of Ed--to save me from myself. Ah, if only this were fiction.


Ed felt insulted when I told him. He smoked his cigarette and mused: "I fixed the screen door...I made them dinner..." Nothing could be done to stop it. He had not found a job and now he had to go. In his absence, I fell into a depression with surges of anger. Exacerbated by my first experience of "speed." The doctor had given me diet pills a couple years earlier, but this high-wire drug was sold to me by someone in the house -- I don't recall if it was male or female. To help me stay up and cram for exams.


Speed made me feel utterly brilliant and energetic and as if it would always be thus until the horrible awful dark near-suicidal crash that was the inevitable flip side.


Nick picked up the Ed slack and started taking me to the sinks again. Still remaining an adorable perfect (naked) gentleman. But I was furious when he didn't come to my play. I don't recall how we ended up in my room--maybe he stopped by to visit one night. It was dark, I was miserable from crashing on the speed--it was doing terrible things to my face and body--and despite that, Nick began to make love to me very gently.


What did I do? I stopped him.


Okay, okay, one more damn thing I'd love to do differently, but there it is. I ended up sitting on the steps of the porch with Nick saying goodbye and essentially letting him know that I never wanted to see him again.


"I think I need to see a therapist," I said. Nick said in his calm, nice way that he thought that was a good idea.


I wasn't a prude. But just after my freshman year (before Ed), I had thrown myself into several passionate sexual situations with men I desired and sometimes even loved, but in each case I'd been badly burned, even occasionally humiliated. So I was left cautious and confused. And technically a "virgin."


Whatever the glue was that held Ed and me together in an oddly physical, affectionate friendship...it would stay strong. And whatever Barbara and Ed felt or didn't feel about each other; what words they spoke and struggles they may have engaged in...only they know. If this were fiction, I could make up the options and dialogue, the twists and turns.


What they said or didn't say, felt or didn't feel mattered little at summer's end because Ed's "nemesis" graduated and returned to her home to Miami.


That Fall when Ed returned to Tallahassee to finish his degree, he moved into Barbara's vacated studio apartment. I moved into an apartment a stone's throw away from him. And the dance continued.




Next Chapter: R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Memory Interrupted

Ed Clark was a vital force in my life for 15 years. We met when I was a student at Florida State University. I only just learned that he passed away of AIDS in '92. If you're just arriving, please scroll down to the first post/chapter and read upward. 


I just found my writings from diaries and letters covering the same time period as the last two posts (Sink Holes and AC/DC) which I wrote from memory. The excerpts below fill in blanks and correct the record. As for Truth, it is somewhere in between.


My diary begins with my summer move out of the conservative dorm and into an un-conservative house in Tallahassee with three other girls. Now a junior, I took classes and some part-time work. Ed Clark brought Light into my life, and then suddenly left Tallahassee to live at home in Jacksonville. I missed him terribly, but the diary reflects that I was handling his absence with more realism and maturity than I recall possessing.


Posted here are diary excerpts from that diary:


Tallahassee, Fla. June 12-13, 1971


I lie here exhausted, freshly bathed, and feeling very proud. Saturday morning I drove all the way up here from Fort Myers (7 hrs.) and made it alive with the car still in good shape. 

[Photo from Google Images. Not mine. Used here for reference purposes only. I don't have any photos of the house I lived in during this time, but this looks exactly like it.]


The house is like a dream. I even like my room. It's sparsely furnished--in fact the worst of the lot--which is what I get for being the last to move in. There is an over-abundance of bureaus that make me long for a desk. 


The old tenants--as a gesture of kindness or bitterness (or both) left us a rather long list of all the faults and disasters that come with the house. The worst seems to be the roaches, but I hope that will clear up slightly when the garbage they've so generously left behind is taken away.


Spent the rest of my day cleaning the kitchen. It was quite a job and I only scratched the surface! I had better luck with my room: comfortable orange curtains, rug, stereo, and shelves of books. The bed was a real scream. It was only a mattress.  A large wobbly bed waited in the front room so I traded. My window is next to the porch. It's a lovely old porch with rocking chairs to rest in, but I can't help feeling that I'm always being observed. Ed would frown or laugh (or both) at that! 


I sat on the porch tonight thinking over Ed's advice: 


Dream your world as you'd like it...


Hard to decide what kind of world I need and desire. Hope to read and expand more this summer.

[Bob in above photo.]



Bob is one of the three guys who live upstairs. He wants me in any way, shape or form. I'm not sure why. Ed would say that doesn't matter; it's enough that Bob likes me. Bob jumps to the conclusion that I am unsure of myself and afraid of sex. This is a truth only in part. I'm not afraid of sex (in fact, I expect to find my need for it quite prevalent this summer), but I have always been afraid of people.


Bob scares me with his insistence that one shouldn't discriminate sexual partners--that it doesn't matter who you are--if you're willing you're eligible. There's a loss of identity involved that makes me feel like just one more functioning animal on the planet. 


I don't mean to be snobbish; I like to get the maximum enjoyment out of life: cooking, walking, cleaning--these activities play with my senses and give me pleasure. And I want to make love or have sex, or just touch and taste and enjoy someone whom I trust and who won't jump to conclusions over everything. 


I don't want anyone to ever lie to me in bed, and I will return the favor. All I ask is understanding and patience.


June 15, 1971


Mini-muffins and squash for supper. Squash: fry in butter, steam with water, add sugar, salt, onions. Dee-licious! (Bob's recipe) The more I get to know Bob, the more I like him. 

Becky (my roommate) is starting to wear my patience. The fault is my own as well as hers. Must learn to relax.

Sitting on the porch this evening, Bob informed me that last night he and Dean saw a peeping-tom peeking through the kitchen window. He said this so casually it took us a while to comprehend the caliber of the situation. "We decided to go see what the guy was looking at," Bob said. "He walked away when he saw us coming." This was good for a laugh and freaked out my roommate Barbara who played the "frightened chick":  "I sleep naked!" But I have a feeling it will pass after her visitor Jim leaves. 

Jim is a tall good-looking guy who hitchhiked in from Jacksonville tonight for a visit. His first words to me were: "Well, how's school?" Make me want to vomit!

Bob invited me upstairs and I played cards with him and Jerry. Dean was finishing Dune for the fourth time! I wish I knew him better, but Bob and Jerry assure me that I don't. Bob gave me some bread and the recipe. They assure me that I won't be able to bake bread. I'll show them!


Took an ungodly long walk today. Tomorrow I'm driving friends to go job hunting.


Desire to write Ed or even call him overwhelms. Letters run through my mind during the day. Have got to start bringing my fantasies down. I'm using a good friend as an escape from this world and must stop. But I do miss him.



June 16, 1971


MUST GET MY SHIT TOGETHER. 

No kidding. Can't even stand to write Ed. What do I want? For sure I want to cultivate my classical music taste. Must finish the rest of my books before buying more. Weave baskets...garden...learn frisbee...yoga classes...take another dance class...Wake my body up!

What else? Art? Whose? Learn to make lasagna!


I waste too much time.


Relax.
Enjoy pleasant fragrances.
Love those I can.
Keep myself open to everything.

June 17, 1971


Much more together now. Still no job, but volunteered at the co-op bookstore. Sold a lot of books!



The happy part of this day came when I bought two classical albums and On Becoming a Person (Ed suggested it in a letter). 

“The more I am open to the realities in me and in the other person, the less do I find myself wishing to rush in to ‘fix things.' I am much more content to be myself and to let another person be himself.”

Also began reading the Tao and enjoying that. My enthusiasm for these books is not merely induced by my fondness for Ed but the other way around:  My enthusiasm for these stimuli that he introduced me to has caused my fondness for Ed.


Two days later:


Too much day to write about. It's 5 a.m. and if I must stay up to write this. The Big Event was at 2:15 p.m. when my bread was finally baked and we all had a party. Afterwards Bob and I talked on the porch. I really like him now. He sees so much and in his own way is very honest. He surprised me with the fact that he was Ed's roommate for six months over a year ago. 


He said he finds Ed completely obnoxious, overly confident, a terrible artist, and most of all on the brink of insanity. The stories he told me were hilarious--there was one about Ed moving in on Melissa, Bob's old Gamma Phi Beta girlfriend. Tales of Ed screwing her by the river in a woods at a rock festival while Bob waited in the cold outside his own locked car (it was freezing and Ed had the keys), wondering where they had gone. 


And another story about Bob getting out of bed to go to the bathroom--coming back to Ed and Melissa. He claims they made it a threesome, but that didn't alleviate his pain.


While browsing in a bookstore several days earlier, I'd found a large book of photographs entitled "Please Touch" with photos that endorsed Ed's pursuit of higher consciousness. I sent it to him with a poem as my inscription inside the cover:


Lazy drifting mornings
My god, you are a sleepyhead.
Aye, there's the rub! (and it feels so good).
Look deep into yourself
 and perhaps you may find me
 hiding in a teeny tiny corner
 of your mind.
Good-bye, Farewell, Good luck.
      - Marlan Warren, March 3, 1971


June 25, 1971


Unsent letter to my last ex-roommate Merle: "Today is a bad day because I feel listless, frustrated, anguished, horrified, ludicrous and a trifle blank." 

[Photo: Leon Sink Hole. Pre-Ed. Freshman year we were still in bathing suits.]


In the letter to Merle, I mention that Nick at the bookstore has been taking me to skinny dip at Leon Sink: "Quiet guys usually scare me. I keep waiting (expecting?) to be tied to a tree in the middle of nowhere and raped. Unfortunately this never happens."


Letter stops abruptly. Starts again the next day with:


June 26, 1971


Ed came in last night at 9 p.m. I had gone to the movies with friends. He waited around with Bob and Jerry upstairs playing cards. When I got home, I was sitting on the porch brushing my hair when I recognized Ed's car. Insanity or dreaming--had to be one or the other. 


It was reality.


Ed spent the night (we got to bed at 5 a.m.) and today we hung out with Barbara for a while. Afterward, he said, "She's the type who could have 10 guys on top of her in bed and if I walked in, she'd say, 'Come on.'"

[Photo of Living Theatre performance by Allan Koss, copyright Allan Koss]


I had Living Theatre Workshop at 1 p.m. today. No go. Can't get hip. Too external for me. Not enough guts. Our workshop leader Jim says we'll all get into it later. When later? We only watched a video of the founders Julian Beck and Julia Masina talking about it ("No more theater for the Rockefellers!"). 


Back to the unsent letter:
Ed's going to live in Tallahassee this summer. I'm so excited I can hardly stand it. We are friends. We love each other in a special sort of way. I'm very happy. He said he got the book and enjoyed it. 


He will be back Tuesday. 


Ed is every bit a spoiled, conceited, obnoxious, intellectual snob--but I love him and have enjoyed every minute of his visit. We are close friends. His plan--ready for this?--is to go home, pack and come back to get a job. He is going to live here for the summer! 


Ed took me firefly hunting tonight in Wakulla County. I was the only one who caught a firefly but Ed found a pretty seashell and bunches of wildflowers.


Firefly catchers...
Wildflower pickers...
Two drifters off to see the world.

[Photo: Ed in foreground with friends in the background. Fall Quarter '71]


Disclaimer
This blog is purely personal and from my point of view with the faults that come with memory and exaggeration. My intention is to honor this unique and gentle soul, and to find some peace. 

All photos in this blog, unless otherwise designated, are by Marlan Warren and copyright protected.

AC/DC

I recently learned that Ed Clark passed away of AIDS in '92. If you're just arriving, please scroll down to the first post and read upward. This blog is personal and solely from my point of view. Its purpose is to honor this uniquely creative gentle artist who changed my life.

"Love is just acceptance."

- Ed Clark

[In this photo: Bob]


That Summer of '71, before Ed moved in, the tenant upstairs Bob used to come downstairs and hang out. He had a black cat named Eldridge (after Cleaver) who had a terrible sense of balance. We'd sit on the veranda talking while Eldridge would try to walk along the railing without falling.


Bob had a one-topic mind: sex. "Come on, Marlan," he'd say, "I can help you lose your virginity." Bob was a nice guy. But that was it. I'd sooner have busted my cherry with Eldridge. But Bob was relentless. One night he launched into a monologue that went:

"I've done it in a bed...in a car...on the floor...in a swing...on a stairs...in a closet...against a wall...in an alley...in a theater...in a rocking chair...in a parade...on a stage...in a helicopter...sitting on a fence..."

Instead of turning me on, it only made sex sound less than exciting. As if the "done it" referred to the tying of shoelaces instead of making love. I tried to imagine fucking Bob in a swing. What was the point again?

I mentioned Ed and Bob's reaction stunned:


"Do I know Ed Clark? He was my roommate sophomore year. I had this girlfriend Melissa who loved to screw. You know that Simon and Garfunkel song Cecilia? Well, I swear to God we were in bed and I got up to go to the bathroom and when I came back...Ed was in there with her getting it on!"

Was the story true?

Well, Ed and Bob confirmed their ex-roomie status after Ed moved in with me. Then one day while the three of us were in the laundry room, and I was sitting on top of a washing machine, Bob came up and kissed me while Ed was loading the dryer. Then Bob looked at Ed and said:


"Remember Melissa?"


Ed howled.


I had a theater professor who told us bisexual men like to share women (e.g., Look Back in Anger). Was Bob bisexual? I don't know. I don't think he was with us when Ed took me to a party where most of the guests were gay. As the hour grew late, Ed turned to me and said:


"You should go now and I'm going to stay and I'm not coming home tonight."

I was ignorant of the customs of gay men, but Ed's announcement didn't horrify me as it would have when I first came to Tallahassee. Did I feel rejected? It did hurt; but he made it sound like sleeping with a strange guy would not disturb our home life. And it struck me that it was something he had little control over.

Ed spending one night out with a man meant little to me. However, Ed calling me a few weeks later to say he was spending the night with Barbara...that was something else.


By the time I met Barbara, she was a legend in my mind. Ed often quoted her with the same reverence the Pope reserves for the Mother of God. The black and white photograph of her that had hung on his wall had been taken by a fellow art student majoring in Photography named Coleman. When Ed returned to finish his degree in the Fall, Coleman photographed him for an erotic series of nudes.


Ed described one of the erotic shots before I actually saw it:
"I am standing next to a bed with wrinkled sheets. Afternoon light coming in through the window next to me. The penis is still erect but not fully engorged."


Erect but not fully engorged...
I never asked how it got erect in the first place. It could have been any number of ways that didn't require the photographer's help. Maybe Coleman gave his subjects a pile of porn and sent them to the bathroom for a while. I decided not to ask.

After I finally met Barbara, one day we were talking about Coleman whom I had briefly (a diminutive man with an air of ironic dead seriousness, not unlike Andy Warhol). "We were walking along after we first met," Barbara told me, "and I asked him if he was a homosexual and he said yes." I was flabbergasted. Just the thought made me laugh. "You asked him?"


"That's how I am," Barbara said. "I just come right out with it."


I seem to recall Barbara had a New York or Chicago accent, and I think she was a Jewish girl from Miami. Gloria, my second roommate, was a Jewish girl from Ft. Lauderdale. Both shared an ultra-sophistication and a gnawing ambition. But where Gloria had been harsh in her projection of sexuality, Barbara appeared easy and secure in hers.


Suzanne takes you down to her place by the river...I can never think of that line without thinking of Ed Clark's Barbara.


That summer we lived together, Ed eventually decided it was time for me to meet Barbara (and maybe vice versa, I don't know). The first time, Barbara wasn't quite home yet and we waited in front of her sweet little studio apartment that was at below-ground level and attached to a larger house with its own entrance. It had a small bed that Barbara would lounge on and a couple of chairs for visitors.


Unlike Leonard Cohen's Suzanne, Barbara's place was nowhere near water, but she did feed visitors tea and oranges that came all the way from China. She had me at first glance--making an indelible impression--a delicate-boned elfin young woman, carrying a bag of groceries and wearing an unbleached muslin Mexican wedding shirt. As in the photo I'd seen on Ed's wall, her straight light brown hair fell just to her shoulders.


If I had to compare her to a well known film actress, I'd pick Helen Hunt in "Twister."


I wish I had taken pictures of Barbara. It's strange that I didn't, since I even have a photo of a dog swimming across a lake in Tallahassee. Perhaps I was intimidated. She had been photographed by an expert.


Who the fuck was I to think I had the right?


The only photo left that might even hint at her cool, is one of me copying Barbara's look. Taken after I moved to Boston the following year. I'm wearing a Mexican wedding shirt but it looked tighter, shorter and more appealing on Barbara's compact flapper body.


No matter how hard I tried to mimic, I remained more flatterer than imitator.

[Photo by Leonard Warren]


Back to our first meeting. So there we were waiting for the legendary Barbara when she strode up with a bag of groceries and sunny greetings. She took us inside and proceeded to pull out the treasures: Government Issue butter in a huge jar. "Look at all this butter!"


I had no idea butter was so valuable, and this was the first time I'd ever heard of the government "making" butter for distribution. Barbara explained that her boyfriend had cut his hand at work, and his disability qualified him for Welfare food. She showed us other similar goodies and suggested we have a feast.


Barbara declared she would make chicken soup.


"You can make the dessert," she told me. Maybe because I'd brought her some of my famous Betty Crocker banana cake. Or maybe Ed mentioned my fondness for baking (I had learned to bake bread too.)


Ed looked Barbara over and mused, "You ought to weigh a ton, you're so into food. How do you stay so skinny?" She answered: "I've never liked sweets. I like radishes and pickles. Crisp, tart things."


And I was to bring the dessert.


Ed joked that with her stunning cooking skills, she ought to move in with one of the lesbian professors of Art. "You'd be Alice B. Toklas and she'd be Gertrude Stein."


I'd never heard of either. I waited until I moved to Boston and a book review entitled From the Little Old Lady Who Brought You Hashish Brownies (a review of Toklas' cookbook) drove me to finally read The Autobiography of Alice B. Toklas by her genius partner/wife Gertrude Stein.


Barbara put aside the groceries and sat on the bed with her back in the corner of the wall and her legs crossed while we sat perpendicular to the bed. She had a casual but energized way about her that made me feel at home while simultaneously cowed by her.


"Do you like my new gypsy belt?" Barbara asked, thumbs hooked into the leather belt around her narrow hips, twisting it back and forth to show off the lilting etching of a vine that danced across it. (I got one like it a couple years later.)


When we returned for the "feast," Barbara served the chicken soup with a side of Kosher dill pickle. During the meal, she repeatedly urged us to "Eat the soup, now take a bite of the pickle." Because the dill complemented the soup.


It was the first time in my young life that anyone had ever illustrated how two unlikely things might go together.


Barbara didn't dress up for the feast. She wore a denim shirt with metal studs across the pockets and jeans. "I just put these studs on myself," she announced to Ed when we walked in. Ed cracked wise about her having a thing for studs. And then -


"Studs are wrong," Ed said with a sweeping gesture, he added: "I see you in...diamonds."


"No. Studs are better than diamonds," Barbara shot back with a straight serious face. Her voice flat with emphasis. If she absorbed his worship, she gave no indication. Or was Ed the "diamond" they both referred to? Barbara had a boyfriend but she was also on a kind of sexual odyssey, welcoming various willing attractive men into her bed for one-night stands.


In the days before seeking sensual freedom might kill you.


Sensuous is the word I would use to describe Barbara. It was a word bandied about in the 60s. In the dorm, the how-to book The Sensuous Woman by "J" had been passed around, and we girls had giggled over the "whipped cream and cherries" suggestion.

If the Angel of Death hadn't arrived in the 80s to imbue sexual freedom with anxious horror, such books would still be considered gospel among young girls eager to try their wings. But at that moment, in July of 1971, sexual freedom was synonymous with "freeing your soul."


As an artist, Barbara had a thing for pregnancy. One of Barbara's lithographs depicted a pregnant woman kneeling or sitting on the floor who appeared to be vibrating within concentric circles of energy. The lines of the woman were amber and the rest was white space.


Like Ed's art, Barbara's art evoked spirituality and transcendence. Creation itself was as meaningful to them as the subjects they chose.


One day when we were alone, I examined on Barbara's wall a shadowy black and white photograph of a very pregnant nude woman lounging in a hammock, perpendicular to its lateral lines--her long arms stretched out, holding the hammock's sides. The mound of her stomach visually paralleled the mound of her curly head behind it. While I admired it, Barbara said:


"Can you imagine how relaxed she must have been? In a hammock."


Can you imagine?


Barbara had a way of asking me "Can you imagine...?" As if something had been unimaginable until that moment but now worth contemplating above all else. She once told me about a pair of mind-blowingly beautiful sisters--regal, tall with olive skin and long black hair who had both been the lovers of Leonard Cohen.

They were supposed to be so stunning that you felt like falling to your knees in their presence.


"They did thing with makeup nobody else would dare do, but it made them even more beautiful," she told me. "They gilded their eyelids." As if that were the height of luxury, sensuous delight, and fuck-all nerve. "Can you imagine, Marlan...painting your eyelids gold?"

Barbara took a coffee table book of Klimt paintings off a shelf and introduced me to his vibrant ethereal images. The excess gold in them. How beauty could be achieved and how we could copy it. She pointed to her mink-colored eyes and said, "You have eyes with color. Beautiful green eyes. If I had your eyes, I would paint g-r-e-e-n..."


She said the word green as if my eyes could be imbued with magical powers if I painted this color around them. Barbara wore no makeup, and I sensed she was trying to fix me up. The days of my black-dyed hair and careful mascara were over. I wanted to look as good without makeup as Barbara did.


Despite my heroine worship, I resisted her makeup suggestion. Until I lived in Chicago in the mid-70s where I spent my days pursuing a career in acting, and did try gilding my lids with gold-green eye shadow. But by then Barbara was no longer around to give a thumb up or down.


One day Ed and I found Barbara running around the studio with a script in hand reciting: "Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! It's 6 o'clock and the master's not home yet!" She kept repeating the lines from Skin of Our Teeth over and over. It was for a scene in an acting class. It turned out that she knew some folks from the Theater Department. So we had that connection also.


I was thrilled when she gave me one of her pieces. It was a print of a charcoal life drawing of two nude women. They were faceless and their genitalia non-existent so there was something androgynous in them. And they seemed to be floating in air like matching bookends with space between them as they faced each other.


"We were supposed to only draw the shadows," Barbara explained. It was sexy and I really wanted it. As it happened, Barbara had some prints and she signed one and gave it to me.


For years that drawing hung on my wall from Boston to Canada to Chicago to San Diego--until my 80s L.A. then-husband eventually objected because he thought it depicted two gay men having sex.


Update
A couple days ago, I received a note from Ed's mother thanking me for the photos and letter that I sent her upon news of his passing. I'd asked if she knew where Barbara was and she wrote back that Barbara sends her a Christmas card every year from Washington. "They wanted to get married but I asked them to wait until graduation. Then she married someone else."




Blogger's Note:  Memory vs. Truth
After I wrote this post, I purged my files of diaries and letters about my relationship with Ed Clark. Some match my memories, some don't. Others fill in blanks. One thread runs through all the episodes and communications: our inability to say we loved each other at the same time. I said it first and he shrugged. Then he said it years later long-distance and by then--as always--it was too late.


When I decided to quit college and move to Boston, my diary reports:


"Ed called my idea 'crazy.' He said, 'You need a break. Stay in Tallahassee. Work. Go back when you're ready.' He gave me many reasons to stay. Except the one I was waiting for: 'Because I need you and love you.'"


But I'm getting ahead of the story. The next post will simply be my diary from the time covered so far. Please remember it's the breathless writing of a 19-year old in the early 70s. 


In all my writings, there's not a word about Woodstock, Jane Fonda, Jimi Hendrix, the Beatles, or any of those iconic stylemakers who rocked the worlds of my fellow students. That Ed Clark was pursuing philosophy and Eastern mysticism while listening to Bartok and Beethovan means he was pursuing what seekers pursued during that time. He was more Alan Watts than Abbie Hoffman. More Timothy Leary than Tom Hayden. More Allen Ginsberg than Bob Dylan.

Sink Holes

I recently learned that Ed Clark passed away of AIDS in '92. If you're just arriving, please scroll down to the first post and read upward. This blog is personal and solely from my point of view. It honors this unique and gentle soul who changed my life forever at the first "hello."

"Love is just acceptance."

- Ed Clark

Four months after we met, during Spring Quarter, Ed moved back home to Jacksonville and whatever ground I'd gained under my feet thanks to our friendship began to slip away. We wrote to each other but the unsent letters still in my files:


Dear Ed:
I wish that I could meet you again someday when communication would not be so difficult. What is difficult about communicating for me? Fear of rejection. And what have you shown towards me? Acceptance. I miss your hungry drive for knowledge--not to acquire book learning, but an Answer. 
"Why do we go on?" I asked.
"Why not?" you said. 


Why not?


In Ed's absence, I took a break from philosophy and focused on politics, volunteering at a Socialist bookstore where I met Nick. Nick was cute and blonde and sweet and masculine. Easy and polite. He really liked me and got into the habit of picking me up mornings to drive to Leon Sink where we'd skinny dip as innocently as Adam and Eve before the serpent.


I was still a virgin but getting naked with guys seemed okay in the Woodstock sense of the word. It was a time when young women were encouraged to "go natural." I stopped wearing the makeup I'd learned to carefully apply the year before, and let myself gain weight.


The sink holes south of Tally offered the best free fun around. An Internet site informs me that most were closed for a while, but a few are now open again. They are still popular spots for swimming au naturele.


This Leon Sink had a rope that you could grab and swing yourself over the lake-like water before dropping down into the deep water. Here's a photo I took of a fellow student during a chaste outing with other suited friends a year earlier.

When I wrote to Ed about Nick, he wrote back that a nice guy like that was "a chance to come out of your shell." That response stung a bit. Not just the confirmation that we had no reason to possess each other in a vice of commitment, or the possibility that Ed himself was most likely dallying with whomever, but I also read it to mean:


"I tried and I give up."


Then in June he wrote:
Dear Marlan,
I’ve been caught up in things.  Quit one job and am looking at another.  I’ll find out Monday.  If you like Fromm, read Rogers On Becoming a Person or anything by Abraham asalow.  I’m still reading Nietzsche’s Just God, complete works on Zorasthutha, Good and Evil and a few others.  I’m fascinated.  I’m listening to Bartok and Mozart for pleasure.

My art is dwindling, but otherwise all I need is a good stone.

You should have more confidence.  A person’s merits are in their sincerity.  Have faith in your sincerity and it will carry you well.  Most doubts and fears are baseless until you act on them.  Trust your insights and desires.  They are your closest guides.

Love,

Ed

P.S. – I just reread your previous letter.  Down?  Relax.  Decide on small goals and a determined field of inclusion.  Enjoy what you do.  Get out of any situation that you do not enjoy by the simplest and most direct method, no matter the cost lest it be worse.  Or if it is worse, stay where you are till opportunities change.  They will in good time.  Then be happy, love what you can and broaden your interests and activities to the limits of your capabilities.  Be sincere, inquisitive and relax as often as possible.  Dream sweet thoughts and explore your imagination.  Go wild with pleasant winds and sweet fragrances. Enjoy yourself and those you can.  Imagine the world you want, then find out how to model it.  If it changes in the process, all the better.

That summer I decided to stay in Tallahassee and take a couple classes. I now had wheels, thanks to my dad selling me his Rambler, and I moved in with three female students in a large old 2-story house. My room was the smallest with a window facing the veranda. The only place for the bed was right under that window.


The whole upstairs formed a separate apartment and held four college-age guys. One of them named Bob took it upon himself to come down during our first week and say, "Last night I saw a peeping tom looking in your windows." The more we got to know Bob, the more likely it seemed that the peeping tom was probably him.

Missing Ed like crazy, I played Carole King's Tapestry album over and over: You just call out my name and I know wherever I am, I'll come runnin'... Then as it turned out, one night Ed did call out my name but I didn't have to run because he was just outside my window. I don't recall how he moved into my room. There couldn't have been much discussion.


Our relationship shape-shifted. He was now on my turf.


I didn't have to take him off the pedestal; he jumped down. Willingly. In retrospect, it was probably the best thing for his depression. Like me, he enjoyed hanging out with people as much as he needed solitude. We didn't listen to classical music and look at his artwork anymore. I was seeing a "new" side of Ed--the Valdosta, Georgia/Florida boy who was now "in town" and no longer living on the edge of it.


Gone was the naval-gazing contemplative Ed, and in his place was a sweet, fun guy with a teasing way who adapted quickly to house activities. The other girls had boyfriends who stayed occasionally, so I didn't think it was a big deal that Ed lived there day after day. He helped my actress roommate with her lines, fixed the screen door when it broke,  cooked meals (introducing his famous experimental "vanilla steak").


There was no tension. Our personalities fit as easily as we did in that little bed. His June letter turned out to be prophetic. One by one that summer, we fulfilled Ed's "recipe" for happiness:


1. Be happy, love what you can and broaden your interests and activities to the limits of your capabilities.  


2. Be sincere, inquisitive and relax as often as possible.  


3. Dream sweet thoughts and explore your imagination.  


4. Go wild with pleasant winds and sweet fragrances. 


5. Enjoy yourself and those you can.  


6. Imagine the world you want, then find out how to model it.  If it changes in the process, all the better.


Our lives quickly filled up with friends and fun.

Be happy, love what you can and broaden your interests and activities to the limits of your capabilities. We took short road trips with Ed at the wheel of my car. If Ed had said, "Marlan, I'd like to drive this car off a cliff with both of us in it, and we'll both survive because the car won't have a scratch," I would have said: "Go ahead."


Occasionally he did drive the car off a country road--rocking and rolling like it was a Jeep over rough terrain--with me sitting serenely next to him. When I took the car home on break, my dad was upset because I forgot to add oil. Thankfully, he never knew it could have been so much worse.


Throughout these experiences, I remained an observant passenger while Ed drove both literally and figuratively. He opened new worlds for me, but these were now on the Mundane Plane. Which is really where we needed to be at this juncture in our young lives.


Enjoy yourself and those you can. Our first excursion was a berry-picking expedition. One of my friends knew where there were wild "blueberries" growing, so we gathered some friends and took off to pick as many as our buckets could hold. My Columbian friend Suzy came with us at my invitation.


Here's Suzy playing on a rocking toy at an outdoor mall during our Freshman year.

Suzy was having a mad affair with a married older guy. On her dorm-room wall was a big poster of a couple locked in a Tantric sex position with the caption: "If you love me, please don't leave me." She had cheered me on when I went to NYC and booed my return as cowardice. We'd already been to D.C. and back in her car before I met Ed. Now she lived off-campus and came running with a bucket to get those berries.


My first roommate Debbie also joined us. A native Floridian, she soon set us straight: "These aren't blueberries. They're huckleberries!" Huckleberries Schmuckleberries, Ed made an amazing cobbler out of them; boiling the berries with sugar until they were thick as preserves, and dressing them with fluffy cobbler crusts. I was as impressed as if he'd pulled a rabbit out of the stove.


I didn't come from a home where cobblers were simmered on the stove. My dessert world came out of a box and in that regard, I was completely self-taught. In my eyes, Ed's cobbler was further proof of his genius.


Go wild with pleasant winds and sweet fragrances. 
We visited the sink holes often. Always with friends. Always in the nude. I don't remember drugs being connected to those times, although we did come across some kids younger than us sitting on some rocks around a sink with the unmistakable aroma of marijuana in the air.


Ed used to get a big kick out of a middle-aged guy who would show up, pickup truck motor running behind the shrubs where the cars would park. We'd hear the truck and scramble to get our clothes on. Then we'd head for our car and pass him, saying good evening. Ed believed the guy was a voyeur. "It's awfully nice of him to let us know he's out there and give us time to get dressed while he watches."


Nothing disturbed my equilibrium that summer. As long as Ed was there, I felt no harm could come to me.


One night Ed drove us to the Big Dismal. A recent Internet search confirms that the Big Dismal is a sink hole not for the faint at heart. Graphically it's all about the vertical. Cliff-like steep rocky sides lead to the water below that lacks both shore and a discernible bottom. There must have been a moon that night or we would have killed ourselves. I'm not an adrenalin junkie--far from it--but I went right in with the others.

Photo by E. Kosman

Treading the dark water, I felt the primordial power of the Amazonian vegetation above me. There was something prehistoric about this sink hole, wild and dominating. The silky sweet feeling of water against my skin merged with the pleasure of floating with friends in a bottomless pit.


If anyone had anything clever to say while we floated in God's Bathtub, I don't recall any bon mots. The memory is full of Silence. And maybe a teeny bit of fear that there might be snakes in the water.


One by one, we climbed out. As I made it up to solid ground, I felt a beach towel being tenderly wrapped around me from behind. And Ed's arms holding me.


In that moment I felt so loved. And surprised.


His gesture made swimming nude suddenly sexy. Opening his arms with the towel behind me so I couldn't see him and then moving in to wrap me up in it...made me feel admired and cared for.


When all is said and done, the keen pleasure in that embrace remains while the memories of orgasms that came later with others have faded.

Imagine the world you want, then find out how to model it.  If it changes in the process, all the better. Two players danced at the edge of our summer scenario: Bob and Barbara. They actually held the keys to Ed's AC/DC sexuality. Their imparted knowledge and history with him would give me a sharper image while in some ways blurring it.


I'll cover them in the next post.


A NOTE ABOUT THE SINK HOLES OF TALLAHASSEE:
*My Internet search today just now turned up a list of those sink holes south of Tallahassee, evaluating each one and cautioning that many have been closed to the public for some time and a few have reopened.

Days of Tao and Acid

Ed Clark, Jr. died of AIDS in '92. 
If you're just arriving, this memoir starts several posts down. 
Please scroll to the bottom and read upward.

I'll just do it.

It was early evening when I swallowed the tab and set out across the campus in search of something to do and maybe someone to help me through it. Diane had procured it for me but then refused to assist me with my first trip.

I ducked inside the campus theater where an "experimental film" flickered on the screen. The disjointed fast-moving images struck me as a hilarious, reflecting the absurdity of Life. I laughed until the people in front of me turned around to glare. They must know I'm tripping. I got out fast.

Outside on the campus, the drug was definitely kicking in. Hyper-reality began to wrap itself around me. I wrote in my diary the next day: The grass looked like movie grass. I didn't know then that it was almost a rule that when a person trips, it somehow invites weird stuff to happen. 

A girl I'd known in the Freshman dorm came galloping up on a horse, followed by two horsemen. She paused in front of me, hair lifted by the wind and we talked for a moment while I tried to act normal. She told me that she now lived on a ranch. Then she rode away.

All my reading told me that someone who is after a higher consciousness experience should have a "guide." So I went off in search of one. Ed's place was too far away for me to consider. I tried a woman I knew from a scene study class who lived in a nice townhouse a few blocks off campus. She was sophisticated, grounded and she'd tripped before (as most folks that I knew had claimed).

But when I got there, she had visitors and she told me the next day that I'd walked in and said: "I'm tripping." She asked me to come inside and I said: "No. Thank you. No. Thank you." And left.

I began the long walk along the highway to Ed.

By now, the acid was starting to peak. I hardly knew my own name. It was like being inside a dream with melting colors and sensations that ebbed/flowed. I stopped and looked back at Tallahassee behind me--the FSU fountain and the Capitol building stood out in bold relief as if newly sculpted and painted.

I remember thinking that this is not a good idea.

I did manage to find Ed's place and thank God he was home. He opened the door. "I'm tripping," I said. "It's my first time." He just said that's great and took me inside.

Upstairs we sat on his bed while he rolled a joint so he could get near my wavelength. I kept trying to tell him what I'd been through but he kept interrupting: "Did you think I wouldn't be home?" "What time did you drop?" "Then you must have peaked a half hour ago, you should be mellowing out...Here this will help."

He took me on another tour of his artwork and this time I could notice subtleties as he guided me through the colors and shapes and hidden meanings. We sat listening to Moonlight Sonata and this time the music was visible as it floated through the room. I was convinced he was getting what I was getting. 

I had made a dangerous journey to safe haven and I was with a man who understood in ways nobody else had ever understood me. That was all that mattered. 

In the morning, Ed said, "Your first trip. Tell me what you got out of it." But words failed. I'd learned that tripping meant not being able to contemplate anything but the NOW. The senses take over consciousness and the rest of life seems unnecessary. And that you don't actually leave on the trip. You end up being more in life than ever.

And it turns out that just existing without agenda can be an exquisite pleasure.

That's what I wanted to say. I don't recall if I was that articulate.

We were in his living room. He was sitting in an armchair facing me on the couch talking about his art. "I can't draw," he said. "Lithography doesn't require that much drawing skill. Here I'll show you what I mean. I'll draw you. Hold still." I held still, excited that he was actually drawing my portrait with pastels.

At first he wasn't happy with the result. It was all orange and brown, kind of one-dimensional. The he said, "Wait a minute..." and he got some white acrylic paint which he brushed onto the face to create dimensions and cheekbones. Very pleased, he was startled at his own prowess.

I was flattered. Did he actually want me here? Then he wrote a title at the bottom and signed his name.

Lily of the Dark

Lily of the dark. But which dark? The one inside my head that I was trying so hard to light up? Or Ed's own darkness that he waded through day after day as he waited for his own private Godot? I'll never know. My self-esteem wasn't high enough to believe the latter. So the caption stung a bit. But we were both pleased that it turned out so well.

For years after I left Florida, Ed would ask me to take a photo so he could make a slide for his portfolio. I could never get a photo to come out right. So I never sent it. The one thing I feel guilty about. An artist friend in San Diego called it a "fucking Mona Lisa."

The next post will cover that other "tripping" that we did after I moved off campus and my father sold me his Rambler as we eventually moved into the Lighted World of friends and adventures.